The Path to Wellness
Today I want to talk to you about what wellness looks like. What do you think about when I say wellness? I think about thin, radiant yogis. About eating plates of veggies and being thrilled about it. Headstands are in there too, for some reason.
We compare ourselves to others and try to make wellness a destination.
But it isn't. It’s a practice.
It’s something that needs to be tended. It’s the most important relationship you have. The one you have with yourself. There are ups and downs in every relationship. That’s life. The key to wellness is the commitment you have to your relationship. Are you willing to work at it even when its hard? When your own mind is screaming that you are a worthless piece of shit and you just want to sink down into a hole and hide?
I bring this up because Winter Break (I feel like the experience of the past two weeks deserves capitalization) was unexpectedly devastating to my wellness. I’ve come so far in the last year, but all it took was two weeks at home with my kids to really knock me down. I was surprised by how quickly I settled back into bad habits. Which led immediately to cycling negative self-talk and self-destructive behavior (which for me is binge-eating). I was exhausted and miserable in like, three days. And I blamed the situation I was in. I took no responsibility for my thoughts or reactions. I did not tend to my relationship. I sat in my muck. Once I became aware of this, I immediately took responsibility for how I was feeling, and made the choice to change.
This is what wellness is. It’s a daily practice. You need to make that choice over and over and over. The choice to feel better. To do the things you need to do to feel good. Loving yourself enough to believe you deserve to feel fucking amazing, as often as you can.
How do you get unstuck?
Let me know in the comments!
I am Jessica DaCosta, I'm a proud cannabis enthusiast, advocate, and mom of two.